Femininity is a complex of external and internal qualities inherent in a woman and expected from her. Among the main components of femininity, men call tenderness, patience, complaisance, wisdom, thriftiness, poise. However, not all women are distinguished by this. Some girls act like boys. They are sharp in movements, have bad habits, do not differ in charm, and are unrestrained. But if they want to, they can change themselves.
External changes
External femininity is not manifested in plastic surgeries, pumped lips, large breasts, pretentious clothes and bright makeup. It manifests itself in maintaining and emphasizing natural beauty, women’s health:
- long, smooth, thick and silky hair;
- clean skin with a healthy tone and blush;
- healthy weight;
- a toned, slender, proportional body (slenderness is not synonymous with thinness);
- neat and clean clothes.
To make your skin, hair and nails look neat, you need to eat right, give up harmful products (alcohol, soda, convenience foods), and play sports. Natural beauty attracts men more than makeup, which hides a painful, tired look.
Change your wardrobe. Buy dresses, skirts, blouses, and feminine pants. For a change of image and selection of wardrobe, it is better to contact stylists or thematic forums.
External femininity also includes demeanor and speech. Although it has more to do with the inner content, it is a reflection of the inner world. What to look for:
- Speech should be coherent, calm, clean.
- It is unacceptable to clench your palms into fists, slap someone on the shoulder, wave your arms, or shout.
- The gait should be light and smooth: straight back, drooping shoulders.
- It is not recommended to laugh loudly, to laugh with a wide open mouth.
- Watch your facial expressions, facial expressions. Try not to wrinkle your forehead and nose, bite your lips, puff out your cheeks, squint or bulge your eyes. A real woman keeps her face in any situation, she is always calm, sweet and gentle.
- Sit down gently, make sure that your legs touch, stand next to each other.
External changes are impossible without internal changes. Facial expression and posture are a reflection of inner femininity.
Internal changes
Before you start changing, define a goal. Why are you changing? What will you gain or what will you get rid of after the change? This will be your motivation. Track your changes, keep a diary of observations.
You need to have a clear idea of what you want to become. Imagine your ideal of a woman, an image of femininity. Maybe you can find an example to guide you. But relying on standards, ideals and stereotypes, do not forget about your personality and individuality.
To be feminine, you need, firstly, to accept yourself as a woman, and, secondly, to learn to carry it and present it. And here’s what needs to be developed for this:
- Positive thinking. A sullen look, grumpiness, or constant complaints are repulsive. Women are expected to provide support, a charge of cheerfulness, lightness, and laughter. Positive thinking also includes the ability to live in the present, endure difficulties, accept what cannot be changed, and actively influence what is subject to the will of a person.
- Pride and moderate inaccessibility. Don’t be confused with arrogance and pride. A real woman does not behave vulgarly and cheekily, does not rush into the arms of a man. She knows her own worth and understands what she wants. She is selective in connections, social circle.
- Self-esteem. A sense of self-worth depends on it. In order to appreciate and love yourself, you need to accept your own characteristics, find out strengths and weaknesses, and learn to use them to your advantage.
- Feminine strength in the form of weakness. Femininity is not combined with domination, strength, imperiousness. But this does not mean that a woman should fade into the background, obey a man. This means that you need to contribute with wisdom, restraint, tenderness and cunning to the relationship, express your opinion, and exert influence. Well, if necessary, be able to and stand up for yourself, children, home.
- The ability to ask for help and pretend to be weak. An exaggerated example: with a sweet smile, ask to open a jar of cucumbers. Femininity is associated with a man’s desire to protect a girl, help her, protect her. This also makes such a feminine quality important as the ability to accept gifts, help and courtship.
- Wit, sense of humor. It helps to defuse the situation, charge you with cheerfulness, and overcome difficulties.
- Erudition, the ability to keep up a conversation on any topic. To do this, read books, watch TV shows, master different types of activities, refer to different areas of knowledge.
- Comprehensive development, disclosure of talents and potential. Sign up for courses in etiquette, acting, makeup, driving – whatever you want.
- Cleanliness and thrift. This quality is reflected in the appearance, the attitude of a woman to herself, home, and other people.
Femininity is a harmonious combination of appearance and inner world. Femininity is not given from birth, it is formed in the process of socialization, assimilation of the role of a woman, acceptance of her body and social expectations.
Inner femininity is more important. You can change your appearance in one day. But a dress, manicure, well-groomed skin will not help if a woman behaves aggressively, rudely and harshly, if she swears or behaves decently, but masculine, up to copying male poses and movements.
If you yourself do not know what to work on in behavior and speech, then ask your friends for help. From the side it is more visible. Or watch yourself in a photo, video.
Epilogue
Sometimes the lack of femininity lies not in the gaps in upbringing and the costs of socialization, but in the psychological rejection of sexuality, femininity. If the reason lurks in psychotrauma, then you need to work with a psychologist.
Now on TV, the topic of the transformation of girls is popular, including from boys into women. Watch a couple of programs, they often touch on the psychological aspects of the problem. Any changes begin at an internal level, with a change in thinking and self-perception.
