Everyone knows that swearing is bad and even prohibited by law. However, foul language is generally perceived as the norm in society. Even TV reports are often full of “beeping”. But there are people who do not swear at all. Have you decided to become one of them? Wonderful! Beautiful, clean and expressive speech always leaves a positive impression about a person and gives the disposition of others.
What is a curse word
Swearing, or verbal invective – a sharp verbal attack in someone’s direction. Words and expressions of this kind are in every language, but regardless of the culture, there are more negative statements than positive ones. Swearing more often expresses contempt, disapproval, anger. There is nothing special about this: the human psyche tends to notice negative moments and is more willing to give a negative assessment. For some reason, we are not used to talking about good things. Let’s remember any book of reviews: people express dissatisfaction with special pleasure, and they take excellent service for granted and for granted.
Swearing is the crudest form of swearing that exists in any nation, but is prohibited in any civilized society. Why is it still alive if it is prohibited (by the way, it cannot be eradicated)? It is a product of spoken language and cultural heritage (sounds funny). Swear words are not recorded in literary dictionaries, are not pronounced in public, and are not used in the press. At least that is how it should be, according to the norms of society. In practice, the mate itself has not caused indignation for a long time, rather special cases are surprising.
The origin of the mate is not exactly known, but the theory with borrowings has been disproved long ago. It is recognized that Russian swearing is one of a kind from a linguistic point of view and an echo of primitive instincts – from a socio-psychological one. Mate in humans can be compared to grin or fighting stance in animals. Why does a Russian man need a checkmate?
Why do people use foul language
Mastering the mat, perhaps, begins in childhood. For children, this is a sign of adulthood. Due to the peculiarities of the psyche and personal immaturity, children choose the simplest path – imitation. And if for young children this is a way of adaptation, entering the world, then adolescents regard this as “coolness”, adulthood, authority, courage.
Why, having matured, not all people stop swearing or try to do it not everywhere and not always:
- First, the habit is strong.
- Secondly, according to research by scientists, the mat acts as a pain reliever by producing the hormones of joy – endorphins (additional reinforcement).
- Thirdly, mate can be the norm of the environment of the individual.
- Fourthly, a person simply does not know how to express his thoughts differently due to weak thinking and scarcity of vocabulary.
- The fifth reason is an attempt to relieve stress, emotional tension, excitement (“Ugh, already felt better”).
Researchers have come to another interesting conclusion: when the mate is swearing, testosterone is produced, and the one in whose direction the mate is facing, testosterone decreases. Thus, swearing is a way of suppressing an opponent. It is worth noting that the method may be effective, but not social, inferior, primitive. There are many more correct ways to show and earn authority.
Thus, it can be argued that mate is a trait of insecure people. They are the ones who choose such forms of self-affirmation (“Swearing is forbidden, and I, so brave, brave and dangerous, swear”). “I don’t care who thinks what. This is my challenge to society, ”thinks an inveterate foul language.
All people are familiar with obscenities. Those who do not swear – restrain themselves. In what situations is it especially difficult to restrain yourself when you can hear swearing from the most calm and cultured person? In a state of fear, danger, anger, risk, passion, extreme irritation and indignation. Back to uncertainty again. Remember: mate is always perceived as aggression. “The best defense is offense,” says worldly wisdom.
However, there are people who literally speak foul language. Here, I think, it is more correct to talk about lack of culture or a specific perception of the world and the vision in mat of a certain charm, charisma, acuity of speech. Yes, for some people this is part of the image. What is interesting: the environment itself cannot perceive them otherwise. But even the image has its deep roots.
How to stop using foul language
It’s worth starting with the fact that a person does not notice when he swears. If this is not a cry from the heart, but a habit, then only the environment notices it. And this is not always, provided that the mate is part of the image. If you decide to get rid of the mat, then get ready for a difficult and painstaking work.
- Know for sure that you want to stop using foul language. It deprives one of individuality, nurtures cynicism and immorality, precedes other violations of the norms of society, suppresses communication skills, deprives one of the ability to explain and analyze, build a monologue and dialogue, forms stereotypical reactions and indecision. Swearing deprives people of the opportunity to constructively solve the problem (they quarreled and dispersed). The forces are spent on the swearing itself (a specific exchange of emotions without analysis, discussion and solution of the problem). The swearing speech becomes incoherent.
- Bring the habit to a conscious level: record the number of curses (write down daily), ask someone to control you. You can assign penalties: click, money, push-ups, squats.
- Do not try to replace it with another superfluous word, but it is worth looking for literary alternatives. Do an exercise daily on the selection of synonyms for swear words, study dictionaries, expand your vocabulary. If you are chasing the charm of speech, then study old Russian words. Although philologists do not very much welcome this (historicism, relic), but the law allows it. Additionally, words like “accursed” will arouse interest and a smile from those around you.
- Mate fills the emotional void. Learn to better understand your emotions and to channel them in a rational way. Mat is both a warning of danger, and an expression of joy, and the conclusion of sadness. Analyze exactly when and what mat you are using. Can it be replaced by a description of some kind of feeling, emotion? I think yes. Do it.
- Obscene language can be seen as a mask, attempts to hide your true “I”. It is possible that a person is perfectly aware of his emotions and feelings, states, but cannot open up and trust other people. As a result, he exposes a mat shield. Allow yourself to be sincere.
- Abuse can be regarded as protection of the individual. Think about your fears and allow yourself to express yourself in a socially acceptable and positive way. The mate will not satisfy the internal need for protection and safety, the problem of self-doubt will not be solved.
- When does a person use a mat for vivid speech? Provided that he cannot quickly pick up both informative and vivid words. A division occurs: boring information along with interesting and unexpected obscenities or more loyal curses. There is only one way out – work on your speech, master the art of public speaking. Work on thinking, the ability to express thoughts into words. This can only be achieved through practice: study dictionaries and write down your thoughts, analyze their accuracy. Watch censored films and capture how the characters convey their emotions and thoughts.
- Self-control and willpower are essential. But mechanical control alone will not solve the problem. As strange as it sounds, mate is a psychological symptom of personality problems (fear, anxiety, insecurity, anger, aggression, despair).
- If you are having trouble getting rid of the swearing altogether, don’t berate yourself. Maybe you shouldn’t impose a complete taboo? Allow yourself to swear in private (for the release of emotions or pampering).
Mat has a closer connection with insufficiently developed empathy and emotionality, the ability to understand even one’s own feelings, rather than with a poor vocabulary. Perhaps, for a long time, overly functional and rational relationships or conflicting ones (with the same swearing) served as an example. As a result, the emotional, aesthetic side of the personality turned out to be underdeveloped.
In women, mate may subconsciously associate with equality, feminism. Society does not accept swearing, but swearing from a woman’s lips is even more condemned. Thus, for girls, in addition to the already named reasons, one more is added – the struggle for equality.
Mat refers to words-parasites, respectively, the recommendations for disposal are the same. Read about this in detail in the article “How to Get Rid of Parasite Words”. And, of course, remember that treatment is always about addressing the root cause. Fighting bad language is no exception.
